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ArtLady

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It has been our experience that what we are thinking eventually effects our perceptions of situations and sometimes comes out in our comments. I learned a long time ago not to label people or situations with anything that is remotely connected to a negative. This way I never have to remember to check my mouth. As for frustrations, Jay Goltz said it very well. Sometimes there are events and issues that you can do "nothing about". The best way to handle them is to acknowledge the frustration and let it go. More times than not, what I think is going on is only my perception. If I do not react or put any label on what is going on I can enjoy the surprise of the positive outcome. I have found this is the best approach to dealing with the public. It keeps me out of trouble and allows me to keep my self esteem. If the outcome is a negative then it is the problem on the other party.
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Timberwoman
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I learned it pretty much the same way. It was " Ignore the negatives, re-enforce the positives" In other words do not give emotions to a negative situation, always give emotion to a positive situation. Another one was "Act, don't react." or "act" like it's not bothering you.

I was pretty much a hot head when I was younger. I had a friend who was a psychologist go to work on me. It helped me a lot in many situations over the years, and kept me out of a whole lot of trouble.

It really helps me to run my business and make sales.

I slip every once in a while, but only a little, nothing like the old hot head days. Now that I think about it, the only time I've slipped is when another hot head is aiming at me. Only a little though.

Over all it's a great way to run your life and your business.

John
 
This topic reminds me of some points made by Deepak Chopra in a great tape called Creating Affluence. His point is that we are a product of our attention. It is the quality of our awareness and what we choose to put our attention on that determines what we create or become. He talks about the difference between TIME-BOUND awareness (which is the root of many problems) and TIMELESS awareness, which he describes this way:
"I do not worry about the past, nor fear the future, because my life is supremely concentrated in the present, and the right response comes to me to every situation as it occurs."
This pretty much comes down to having confidence in one's own abilities, using intuition, and doing one's best at all times.
If we do not get the result we had hoped for we will figure out a way to make it better.

Adopting this attitude has made a tremendous difference in my life. I used to worry about things and try to analyze every situation in order to try to achieve a very specific and predictable outcome. Realizing that this is really not the way things work, and adopting the qualities described, has made me a happier and more effective person. It has improved my life in many ways including buying a building and moving my business to a much better location, getting married (at age 44), etc. etc.
Didn't mean to philosophize, but Art Lady's posting brought up these ideas for me. Check out the tape if you can find it. Even if you don't "buy" every concept mentioned, I guarantee you will benefit from at least some of them. (It's like coming home with even one money-making idea from a Jay Goltz lecture makes the whole trip worthwhile.)

Have a happy and RELAXING Independence day.

;) Rick

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Why can't they teach us this stuff in grade school? We have to blunder through life into adulthood before we discover stuff like this. It does change your life for the better though. I just wish I had learned it at a much earlier age.

John
 
I realise this topic is been sitting a while, but I just signed up and am catching up on different lines that interest me. This puts me in mind of a saying by a very sucessful photographer, Charles Lewis, who likes to say " It's not your aptitude but your ATTITUDE that determines your altitude." In other words, even the best in the profession are going nowwhere with a poor attitude.

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Anne L.
 
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